Podcast Interview

I’m up for air. Fresh, virus-free air.

For the past 6 days I’ve been nursing my youngest daughter back to health after a bout of the flu. My kingdom baby was miserable. Mommy was miserable too. Matter of fact, the entire house was miserable. But we did what we had to do.

Sleeping on her bedroom floor.

Listening to her breathe at night.

Forcing down nasty medicine.

Praying and decreeing. Praying and decreeing.


I’m thankful that she came through because in this flu season some children haven’t. We can never take anything for granted.

It just so happens that on her first real day of recovery I was invited to do an interview on the podcast “Read You Later” with Lasheera Lee. I’m posting the podcast below for Disciplined Women to enjoy. What I want to share with you, however, is this.

Being a disciplined woman, for me, has meant doing what needs to be done in the season it needs to be done. It means stopping and trusting God to maintain one thing while I deal with another thing. Here’s what I mean.

When my daughter contracted the flu, everything stopped. Everything.

No professional work. No ministry work. No personal work. . . Everything stopped. As someone who is used to multi-tasking and doing a lot all at once, stopping everything requires discipline. I am learning to train my mind and heart to focus on the right thing at the right time. This past week it has been child, health, family, home. Nothing more, nothing less.

Now, for you, this may be easy. If that’s the case, you don’t need discipline in that area.

I do.

I need discipline to TRUST GOD with the other things while I deal with the main thing. There may be times when it’s flipped. I have to trust God to deal with the main thing, while I deal with the other things. How do I know when to do what?

My spirit knows.

So, essentially this is about listening to my spirit, which is led by God’s Spirit, and being disciplined in obeying what it says.

A word of caution: I did not say listen to your emotions. Your emotions or your feelings are not your spirit. Don’t do something because you merely “feel like it” or you get uncomfortable. And definitely don’t do anything because you fear what others will think or say.  That’s not your spirit. That’s your impatience and your low self-esteem.  Your spirit should be guided by the wisdom of the Holy Spirit.

Task #5 : Journal about when you’ve been moved by feelings when you should’ve been moved by the spirit. How did you know you had neglected the spirit of wisdom? How are you disciplining yourself in that area now?

Enjoy the podcast. I am the last interviewed about 30 minutes into the show, but the entire show will bless you.


Stop Beating Up on Yourself

On this journey to becoming a disciplined woman, we must realize that it is God who makes us better. It’s God who breaks us and molds us and shapes us and refines us. If we could do it, we would have done it.

God makes us better! 


So don’t beat yourself up if you are not where you want to be or you are not who you want to be right now. The most important thing you can do is to decide to seek God’s help in the process of becoming who you are supposed to be.

When I started this Disciplined WomanJourney in 2018, I heard very clearly from God that so many of us are not where we can be because we aren’t disciplined in our pursuit. What does that mean?

We pursue God every now and then.

We pursue better in ourselves when it’s convenient.

We pursue more knowledge of God only when we are going through hard times.

We pursue a deeper, more accountable relationship with God’s people until it becomes uncomfortable.

God showed me women who are in desperate need of better but who are also in desperate need of discipline. He said, “If they will just pursue me wholeheartedly –when they want to and when they don’t want to, when it’s cold and when it’s hot, when it is fashionable and when it’s not — I will do it!

You don’t have to do all things and every thing right now in order to be a disciplined woman. You just have to 1) decide to be disciplined, and 2) make one disciplined decision at a time. Just one. They will add up. They have to. You can’t do better each day and come out worse. One disciplined decision at a time. Okay?

Task #5 – Make a disciplined decision today in terms of your pursuit with God and the seed you sowed at the beginning of 2018. Just one disciplined decision. Do you need to call someone? Do you need to read something? Do you need to write something? Do you need to delete someone? Do you need to ask for advice? Do you need some alone time? Make one disciplined decision and then journal about it. If you are willing, please share.

With a disciplined love,



Celebrate What God Is Doing

gallery-1473796416-child-marriage-knotLast week my husband and I celebrated 22 years of marriage. To be honest, we hadn’t always “celebrated.” We loved and liked each other, reflected on the day we married, and maybe went out to dinner, but no real celebrations. Why? We were either too tired, too busy working or taking care of children.

There’s really no excuse not to celebrate your anniversary. No excuse!

We know that now.

After year 20 we started being more intentional about celebrating us. We go hard for others all the time and constantly neglect us. We’d always joke with our married friends who took vacation to the beach or excursions on a cruise that we planned to be like them when we grew up. So. . . that’s what we had to do: GROW UP.

Truth be told, there was really nothing holding us back from celebrating but the fear that things couldn’t go on without us. But that’s really arrogant, isn’t? As if God couldn’t or wouldn’t maintain His kingdom while we took a few days to love on each other.

God can. God will. God did.

So, I took some time away to celebrate with the love of my life. I know for a fact that it pleased God to see the two He joined together enjoy sweet communion with each other.

The scriptures say that “it’s the Father’s good pleasure to give us the Kingdom” (Luke 12:32). He’s given it to me and Tacuma. He’s orchestrating our lives and filling our days with His purpose. He’s keeping His promises and revealing His glory through us day by day.

He’s doing it. Not us.

Moving forward, we will be disciplined when it comes to honoring and thanking God for our marriage. We will be disciplined in stepping away from the day to day and allowing Him to move and shift things according to His will.

Because, beloved, it ain’t about us; it’s about Him.

When we honor each other and what God is doing in our lives, we honor God.

Take a moment to watch a little bit of our journey to 22 years of marriage. We hope it blesses and encourages you.