The All Right Now

A couple of years ago, I started writing a book called “You Can Have It All.” I never finished the book because life took me on an amazing journey. During that time, I had to give myself permission “to have” what God was giving me in the season I was in. . . a new assignment and new motherhood. So, I stepped away from a lot of things in order to focus on the most important things for that moment.

I still believe you can have it all, even if you can’t have it all NOW. When I learned to be content whatever my circumstances ( Phil 4:11), God started to show me exactly what “having it all” meant. Check this out:

Four years ago I was working as a college administrator and professor. I thought that, along with women’s ministry, was my life’s work. My husband was working in organ donation and pastoring a church. Our lives were good. But just good. He worked long hours on both jobs; and I worked diligently on my job but spent most of my free time explaining to our daugher  why daddy was always at work.

When we said yes to the call to the ministry of education, our lives changed in a matter of weeks. We both left our previous employers and literally took a leap of faith to build a school. Today, our professions have merged with our Kingdom purpose as a couple, and we spend most of our waking hours together, either building the school, working in ministry, or rearing our daughters.

The “all” of a few years ago is not the same “all” today.

Stepping away from some things gave me time to really see what God was doing in my life. One such thing was redefining what “all” meant. When I thought I was done having children, God surprised me with another miracle baby. When I thought I was going to work in someone else’s school, God blessed me with my own school. When I thought I was going to continue writing a marriage column to help others with their marriage, God blessed my marriage in such a way that we have no choice but to live and be as one. The past 2 years taught me that I have no idea what “having it all” really means. My “all” is not God’s “all.”

And thank God for that!

“Eyes have not seen, ears have not heard, nor has it entered into the heart of man what God has prepared for them that love him” (1 Cor 2:9).

“God will do exceedingly and abundantly above ALL I can ask or imagine according the power that works within me.” (Eph 3:20)

Once I surrendered to my season, I received the revelation that I was holding onto a limited “all” even though I was worshiping a limitless God. My heavenly Father, the giver of all good and perfect gifts, was trying to give me so much more through the reorganization of my family life and our career paths. He said:

Focus on the all of new motherhood.

Focus on the all of a daughter whose mother is her principal and whose dad is her pastor.

Focus on the all of building a marriage and true kingdom partnership that builds community and changes lives.

Focus on the all of driving to work together and re-instituting weekly lunch dates.

Focus on the all of getting clarity about worship and fellowship and ministry and church.

Focus on the all of now because if I showed you the all of later you’d let fear paralyze you from moving forward. 

I still believe we can have it all, and I declare and decree the abundant life God has for me. Right now, though, I’m good with all He’s blessed me with today. The “all of now” is more than you or I comprehend.

Receive it.

Rest in it.

Know Your Role

When I taught at the university, my students complained endlessly about working on group projects. They hated working with other people. Inevitably somebody would slack; somebody would miss meetings; somebody would cause a bunch of confusion. The critical question always arose: Why should I be evaluated based on what somebody else would/wouldn’t do?

I get it.

Whether it’s a college assignment or a professional task at the workplace, it’s difficult to work with other people. I believe that’s precisely why God requires it.

You will never be as GREAT as you can be if you can’t work on a team and as a team.

Genesis 1:26 – And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.Even God worked as a team: 

God, the Father

The Son

The Holy Spirit

One of the keys to greatness is to know your role and to stay in character. God, the Father has a specific job. Jesus, the Son, has another job. And, the Holy Spirit has its role. Together. . . they are ONE and unstoppable.

If you work on a team–and I hope you do–get clarity about your role. Become obsessed with staying in character and giving 120% in that role. Resist the temptation to play another person’s role or to think you know how to do it better than they do. If God wanted you to play that role, He would have anointed and appointed you for the position.

But, He gifted you in a unique way, and it’s time to grow your gift, as an individual but also as a team member. Endeavor to be an irreplaceable team member. God can use that type of person to do GREATER works for His Kingdom.

Make This One Change

While I’m writing this, I’m at a conference with Eric Thomas the motivational speaker and life changer. He’s also a minister of the Gospel. The word for you today comes from him:

Good intentions mean nothing. Execution means everything.

If you make this one change in your life–to execute–you WILL become who God created you to be.

I want to encourage you to be a person who executes, who finishes, who wins. Stop merely working your plan, but execute it.

If you are thinking of all the obstacles in your way right now, you are not ready or mature enough to possess the thing you desire. Excuses are the enemy of execution. (Those are my words. Lol)

I want you to win. I want you to be fulfilled in life. I want you to walk out your purpose. In order to do this, you must make this one change: stop making excuses and start executing the purpose in your life.





God told me to simplify things.

I haven’t written in a while.

A baby.

A middle school.

A vision.

A couple of inbox messages prompted me to do some internal work to find out why I didn’t feel compelled to go back to the online ministry I began almost 6 years ago. I had a lot going on: radio, video Bible studies, writing for a major website, blogging, etc. God released me from the radio show almost a year ago. I even tried to write a few times on the old site (funny that I call it “old”), but it just didn’t feel right. Or dare I say it didn’t feel anointed anymore.

See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. (Isaiah 43:19)

It’s not that I have lost the anointing or the gift or the call or even the passion. Rather, it’s shifted, elevated, simplified. Or, maybe a better term is, it’s clarified.

The closer you get to your purpose the more clarity you get. The simpler things become. Life isn’t as complicated anymore.

I’m very clear about this new season in my life: with baby, with school, with leadership, with mentorship, with ministry, with mothering, with marriage, with purpose.

Very clear.

Hence the simplified version of the blog. No frills. No thrills. No pictures. Just a simple and hopefully impactful message from God through me to you.

God told me to simplify things; He has a Word for you.

Tonight’s word is this:

Use every ounce of God’s grace every day. Stop wasting time, making excuses, and living like you are entitled to another day. Every day we receive an immeasurable amount of God’s grace. Use all of it.

For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith–and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God– Eph 2:8

This is not the time to be modest or to feign humility. Walk boldly in God’s grace, from the moment you open your eyes in the morning until you close them at night. How do you do this? How do you make use of God’s grace every day?

Think about it this way: Grace is extra time to surrender to God in every decision that you make, in every breath you take, and in every interaction that you have. It’s extra time, another chance to say and then act on your Yes. In all that you do, be radical about your Yes. In every phone call, in every conversation, in every assignment, in every decision go hard for God. Stop playing it safe.

You don’t need a lot of grace if you are going to play it safe. Unlimited grace is for those who test the limits of our God. It’s for those who want to experience “the breadth, and length, and depth, and height; of Christ’s love. . . and to be filled with the fullness of God.” (Eph 3:18,19)

It’s for people who really believe God’s Word and who want to be used beyond measure.

When people look at my life, I want them to see someone who trusts God to do what He says He is going to do. I want them to see someone who lives like she is grateful for every second of God’s grace. I refuse to waste another second burdened, distracted or doubtful. God has gifted me –all of us–with the grace to do amazing things, even radical, paradigm-shifting things. If my work, my walk, and my witness do not shake and unsettle the systems of this world, then I need to tap into more of God’s grace.

Isn’t that what Jesus’ life did?